I am a former music teacher-turned-graduate student that grew up in Double Oak, Texas. I reside in Tulsa, Oklahoma. I was a clarinetist in the Dallas/Fort Worth metroplex for many years. I also have graduate-level training as a library science professional from the University of North Texas.
in 2015, my wife was involved in a head-on car accident outside the city limits of Canton, Texas. I was one of the first to render aid as I was driving my own car nearby.
Her life was saved by the expertise of many outstanding doctors and nurses in Tyler, Texas, and Dallas, Texas.
After a lengthy recovery and plenty of stressful days and nights, full of uncertainty and chaos, I thought the worst was over. But my wife and I drifted apart. Really, really far apart.
We divorced in April 2018.
Divorce is not simple. It is not clean-cut. Neither is the law. I want to learn more about both, and to help others get through their own divorces. I want to start a family law firm that emphasizes de-escalation, civility, and respect for my clients. I also know many LGBTQ+ people and they are fully welcome in my future law firm, both as my employees and as my clients. My future firm is a safe space.
Can you help me with my divorce?
Only as a friend. I look forward to obtaining my law degree and passing the Oklahoma bar exam. I am not qualified to give legal advice at this time. Requests for legal advice cannot be answered and will not be answered. Thank you for your understanding.
Can you tell me more about your ex-wife's story?
Sorry, no. Details are either confidential, privileged, or are not within my intellectual property rights. I do also believe in respecting her privacy, irrespective of the many things I directly witnessed. I find the story of her recovery to be very touching, but I will be writing my own story now. I think her life would make a great book.
That's a lot. How do you press on?
Super Mario, red wine, and Planet Fitness. Different things help different people.
Help! I am going through a divorce.
It's a really stressful thing! Hang in there! I will be building a website with resources soon.
PLEASE, PLEASE NOTE: MY OPINIONS ARE NOT INTENDED TO SERVE AS LEGAL ADVICE. FURTHERMORE, I DO NOT REPRESENT THE UNIVERSITY OF TULSA COLLEGE OF LAW IN ANY CAPACITY WHATSOEVER. MY STATEMENTS ARE MY OWN. THOSE SEEKING LEGAL ADVICE ARE STRONGLY ENCOURAGED TO CONTACT A LICENSED ATTORNEY IN THEIR STATE OF RESIDENCE.
"I hold it true, whate'er befall; I feel it when I sorrow most; 'Tis better to have loved and lost Than never to have loved at all."
-Lord Alfred Tennyson From In Memoriam A.H.H. (public domain)
Disclaimer: my cat did not write this. He doesn't speak English.